3rd party solution

Here's what i think.

That in a relationship, you are never alone.
And it's true, you have your friends, family, colleagues or even your beloved pet.

That sometimes, in a relationship, it's inevitable that someone might appear and tries to break the relationship apart. What then do you do? While speculating and blaming is normally the initial reaction, but think again... What wrong has the lady done assuming that a guy is going after her even thou she is attached. She is merely the victim. Try as she might, it's sometimes hard to shake some thick face faggots off.

Then, do you blame her for not trying enough?
Do you accuse her of lying, for not explaning herself totally, for keeping you in the dark? Do you ignore her totally, and wait for her to own up herself? Or do you confront her, and pick a quarrel with her.

End of the day... Your actions may determine if the 3rd party really succeed, and you may lose the love of your life forever...

By ignoring, you are saying you dont care. You dont want the relationship anymore. And she may feel that it is better to be with someone who gives her more attention. That she will be loved more. Woman loves attention, and the attention given by the 3rd party may exactly be what she wants... But the root of the problem is still the same ain't it? Still the 3rd party. I think this is the most dangerous actions as you are allowing the 3rd party full access to her vulnerability and doubt. This may be the end to a relationship.. Letting it die.. But as all human do... We only regret when we are deprive of what we needs... We only regret when we lost someone..

By accusing her of lying, of keeping secrets and confronting her is also one mistake many make. How would she feels? She probably is doing her best to get out of it, and not let you worry much. She loves you terribly.. And dont want anything like this to come in between. Then, your action make her feel guilty even thou she has done nothing wrong. Will she ever tell you anything else in the future? Or will this cause a scar in the already strained relationship? These quarrels, and distrust will leave doubts, and will damaged what is the most vital in a relationship- trust. Then, you need to ask yourself this.. Is she lying to you? Or was it she didnt think much about it, and dont care about it enough to want to bother in her current love life let alone tell you about it..

As i have mentioned, sometimes it is inevitable that someone appear in your relationship, and tries to steal the relationship away. And the only solution to this, is to beef up your love to your partner.

Shower more love, show more concern, do things you would otherwise never do. Surprise them, buy them dinner, do things that you would do to get your date. Not that they will sway, but when your actions tell them that they are loved, they have every reason not to even care, let alone notice the 3rd party is alive.

Love is never easy.
Sometimes, it never fade...
It's just how we express ourselves.
The actions, the smiles, the words...